One crucial way of developing and nurturing robust, happy, and satisfying personal relationships is to know how to set boundaries. Some people are superb at this, but others find setting boundaries an awkward and arduous task. Well, it all depends on your experience and upbringing.
Nonetheless, you need to understand when and how to set boundaries in a relationship. Besides, there should be a delicate balance in your set of boundaries, making sure that there aren’t too strong or too weak.
Without much ado, here are top tips on how to set sound boundaries.
State your limits
Every couple has limits which, in turn, dictate the strength and nature of boundaries. That is, both of you have to be sure of where you stand on each boundary. Otherwise, the boundaries will course more harm than good. Start off by noting what you can actually accept or tolerate as well as what makes your edgy or uncomfortable.
Be direct with each other
Although some couples don’t require being direct to keep a healthy set of boundaries, it’s wise to have a one-on-one dialogue. You don’t need to dilly-dally with an issue that bugs you. Take time, for instance; it can be a problem for some couple while others find it unnecessary to discuss. When you talk about these issues, make sure everyone is heard and take seriously.
Tune into your inner feelings
Something that makes you feel resentment will certainly cause problems in the relationship. It’s, therefore, best to tune into these feelings so you can set boundaries to that effect. If something makes you feel uncomfortable, on the other hand, it’s a surefire sign that personal space/boundary is being crossed or violated.
Don’t fear to speak out or say no
Guilt, fear or self-doubt can hold us back from enforcing our personal boundaries. You feel guilty for saying no to your partner. Although it might eat you up, don’t be afraid to speak up when someone is violating your boundaries. In a way, boundaries are not the only sign of a happy relationship but one of self-respect.
Seek help and support whenever needed
If you are being overwhelmed by boundaries, it’s paramount to seek support. Whether it’s a life coach, a friend, family or colleague, having a cushion of support will make things effortlessly easy.
These are just but a few ways to set and enforce boundaries in a personal relationship. Don’t forget to be assertive and practice self-awareness for the said boundaries to be effective.
